My birth was MY BIRTH! Not my mother's -- she had hers. And, it sure wasn't the doctor's birth, even though he certainly gets too much credit just because he happened to save my life by dragging me out with forceps (2 loops of my cord around my neck) after stopping and starting MY labor while my mom's body was numb from the waist down. The doctor and my parents were joyful that I survived. Of course my mother "forgot" the horrible part at her joy of holding me. However, my headache, oxygen deprivation, and broken clavicle prevented me from engaging joyfully with her. My bonding and attachment to this woman who wanted me and loved me was terribly over-shadowed by life-saving medical interventions. I was always "such a good baby" because I know now, I was too hurt to cry. What a bummer to live forty-two years under that shadow, but what gratitude I have for the opportunity I have had to heal it.
How could I not want to create the most peaceful and loving birth for every baby coming in? How could I not fully appreciate the benefits of fully trained physician? It is very true, that if not for the physican, I would have died. It is also very true in this new era of energy medicine, a focous on the body-mind-spirit, and consciousness that those life saving actions could have been done with more compassion for me as a baby AND the damage could have been repaired in my early years. Every human being coming into this life at conception through birth deserves loving, conscious, intentional touch and support. Every human baby needs the opportunity to share his or her experience of birth, and to release the traumatic memory from the tissue, and to experience self-attachment.
So, Birth is the Baby's -- each of us were born. THAT would be our own birth. Obviously. Hello!? My mom, the doctor, dad, and the nurses each had their own birth. My mom's birth was a twin homebirth on a blistery winter January day in 1930 in rural Iowa. She came first, butt-first, her sister second. My grandmother gave birth to twins – and it was my mother’s birth and her sister's birth.
MY birth was 26 years later in a hospital in Iowa with my dad present – unheard of in 1956. Since then I have given birth to four other souls who chose to come into a body on this planet via my body. What an honor. What awesome souls they each are. My teachers! Each of them had their own birth -- each profoundly different and defining of who they each are as humans and who they are in relationship with me, and their world. How could it not be!?!?
What is not embraced by our society is that the BABY's brain (MY BRAIN) remembers the joy and the pain and fear and horror of the lifesaving efforts. Every baby, you and yours, and babies you care for as a professional or as family, friend or stranger -- they all have their own experience of their birth. May I say "DUH!" again!?! What's wrong with our society devaluing the sacredness of birth and the importance to the baby -- in order to manage pain and save lives? When and how did this happen?
The Other Side of the Glass
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I am grateful for and overwhelmed (in a good way) with the response to the trailer and the requests to purchase the film.
The intro is short so that fathers and professional caregivers can get the overview of the information now. Fathers/Partners will be inspired about how to advocate for the mother and baby -- whether with a doctor or midwife, or at home or the hospital.
Thanks again for your support for the film. My heart soars with gratitude.
Janel Mirendah
The intro is short so that fathers and professional caregivers can get the overview of the information now. Fathers/Partners will be inspired about how to advocate for the mother and baby -- whether with a doctor or midwife, or at home or the hospital.
Thanks again for your support for the film. My heart soars with gratitude.
Janel Mirendah
Saturday, May 20, 2006
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Review of the film
Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.
The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.
The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.
The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.
The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.
The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.
The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.
The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.
The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.
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